So my boyfriend has had a lot of trouble adjusting to the thought of me wanting to wear lolita and fairy kei. He kept insisting that he wouldn’t find me attractive if I wore it, and we got into quite a few fights over it. I know that some people would be all “omg if he doesn’t love every single…
dump this asshole, it’s not your job to be attractive to him all the time
there’s quite a difference between “lov[ing] every single little thing you do” and trying to prohibit perfectly healthy behavior such as the way you adorn yourself
if you have actually fought about the relevance of whether or not he would “find you attractive” for dressing yourself exactly the way you please then he may not be eligible for a healthy relationship, regardless of how you feel about him.
This ^
She never said her boyfriend prohibited her of dressing like that, though. And even then, right now he is trying to adjust his likes for her. I find that really sweet, you know, because being in a relationship is not liking everything the other person do, but understanding it. Maybe he only needed to get used to the idea. Come on, its not like lolitas and fairy-kei girls walk around here like they do in Japan. Of course if he hadn’t understand it after some time… ah, but he did. So yay for you and your boyfriend!
I dunno…I think sometimes people buy things for their girlfriends / boyfriends to make up for the stupid things they say, even if they mean them. He basically shot down something she is happy about and of course by telling her he won’t find her attractive would make her stop doing it if she really cared about this as well. My boyfriend doesn’t like everything I do and isn’t crazy about it, yet he is supportive of me being myself. Of course I’m sure he’s not attractive to that lolita look, but it’s fine with me. I’m not trying to attract a guy when I already have him.
i think the attitude of I’m not trying to attract a guy when I already have him is really unfair, first of all. I’d be frustrated if my boyfriend randomly started dressing differently and grew his hair out and like grew a massive beard. Believe it or not, that would actually be a legitimate issue in the relationship because part of it is about having a mutual attraction. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with what her boyfriend did. He expressed his opinions, which is part of a healthy relationship, and then they worked it out.
Oh, tumblr ladies, always so self righteous.
Saying your opinion isn’t being self righteous. Some people choose their friends / mates / whatever based on their inner self, not outside appearance.
(Source: desu-milk)
